No relationship is perfect, but the internet and social media have allowed us to peer into certain couples' day-to-day interactions and realize that things could be a lot worse. 

The “sounds toxic, but ok” Facebook group gathers screenshots, posts, and messages from the worst kinds of people to be in a relationship with. Entitlement, possessiveness, and hostility all feature, so get comfortable before you delve into some of the worst humanity has to offer. We also got in touch with the founder and admin of the page to learn a bit more. 

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Amelia Hope Duurloo Report

GenericSodaPop
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2 days ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

oki but thats smart and evil and amazing advice EDIT: mom i'm famous

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Bored Panda got in touch with the founder and admin of the “sounds toxic, but ok” Facebook group and she was kind enough to answer a few of our questions about the group and her own thoughts on what actually constitutes downright toxic behavior. First and foremost, we were curious why the group was started in the first place.

“I created the group originally as an advice group for people to post and reach out anonymously to others for help!” she shared with Bored Panda. As of writing this article, it has over a million followers, so the demand for this content and advice is definitely there. 

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Mädi Dhay Report

xolitaire
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2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my god I am so done with s**t like this. I am a woman and no, we don't all wait for men to "get it". Talking to your SO is a thing!

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We were also curious to hear what she thought drew so many people to view this content, as it can be quite “caustic” for the soul. “I believe people are interested in relatable life stories, and posts, and seeing them put out in a humorous way allows people to laugh about past experiences/ relationships,” she shared. 

Lastly, for such a “popular” word, it can be hard to pin down exactly what it means. So we wanted to hear how she defines being “toxic.” “As for what I define as toxic, I think that everyone has their own limits and barriers when it comes to dating or even personal relationships and you have to figure out what you want to allow. I think it’s also important to reach out to trusted loved ones in your circle if you are unsure if someone in your life is toxic.”

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Haylie Haney Report

Sue Denham
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2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Either buy a suit for your wedding next week or get yourself out of that situation real fast.

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Experts are similarly divided on what exactly makes a relationship toxic. There are a few easy answers, abuse, physical, verbal, or other is definitely as clear a sign to get out as you’ll ever get. But this can create a false dichotomy, where some think the absence of clear abuse means their relationship is fine, even though this is far from the truth. For example, somewhat hostile language, sarcasm, and frequent criticism are common predictors of divorces

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Brienna Harris Report

Panda Kicki
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2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So he stole her card and money? Go straight to police, file report, contactt college about tuition being paid with stolen money, might get some back.

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More often than not, toxic behavior is masked through some indicators of love and protection. A controlling partner will frame their actions and demands through the lens of “it’s better for you.” Of course, setting aside any sort of protective language, it also indicates that they have no trust in your own abilities, which should make you question why they date you in the first place. 

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Ashton Tanner-Franklin Report

afia kooma
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2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You say you didnt think about that, and or that they make sence , or that you didnt use your whole brain, and now that u are you can see your misunderstanding.

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Iampenny
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2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I call BS on this one. If someone lists you as their boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/sister *insert random relationship status* you have to confirm it before it becomes visible. Why would this guy confirm it if he didn't even know who she was?

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Not to play the devil's advocate, but some toxic partners don’t exactly know any better. Humans mimic the social behavior they have seen. Psychologists have found that people who encounter positive relationships in childhood, for example, a successful marriage, are less likely to exhibit negative and toxic behavior later in life. 

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Shelby Chase Elizabeth Report

Lemme get the lemons
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2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean, to be fair thats a lot of things they gave you! You should be more grateful! /s

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While from the outside, it might seem easy to “just” avoid getting involved with the sort of person you can see here, it’s important to remember that most people are somewhat adept at hiding their most toxic traits until it’s too late. Plus, once you are interested or even in love with someone, you tend to overlook things you really shouldn’t. 

A casual glance through these examples show people who range from insecure to keen on fighting for the sack of fighting. While drama can spice up someone’s day a bit, it’s not controversial to say that most people have a limit for drama. Constantly wondering if your partner hates you, is judging you or something they are doing is a test is a recipe for a short and unhappy relationship. 

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Mädi Dhay Report

Power puff scientist
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2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i guess you can still ask what they provide in a relationship once you start dating. you probably pursue someone based on something like looks or a few conversations. a relationship is different and you hope someone is more than just that one thing that attracted you inthhe first place.

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The fights might not even be easily identifiable as a fight. Toxic partners love to gaslight, meaning that they will attempt to convince you about what you think and don’t think. Ultimately, it’s all at the service of maintaining power. An unceasing demand for power is often a sign of deep insecurity, which has all sorts of horrible ways to make someone unpleasant to be around. 

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Toby Wilcox Report

ॐBoyGanesh
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2 days ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

False analogies are like boiled bacon metaphorically speaking.

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The bottom line, if something is really starting to make you unhappy and your partner seems indifferent to it, it won’t magically fix itself and you need to leave. If you want to hear more about bad relationships, Bored Panda has got you covered, you can check out our article on “dead giveaways” that a relationship is toxic. 

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Ainsley Skinner Report

ॐBoyGanesh
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2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does she really not know? As in, wasn’t curious about the fishing buddies her man was meeting?

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Lama
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2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does she need applause for the bare minimum of not being crazy?

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Bear Hall
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2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't like it don't look at it. That's a step to the right direction.

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Gaby Lalonde Report

afia kooma
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2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you are a real biach and want to prove you are still Hung up on him, then sure, do this.

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Taylor Wilson-Dir Report

Bear Hall
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2 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You might be right, but don't bet on they are going to be good memories.

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Rainbow Duncan Report

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