Bride Divorces Husband A Day After Wedding, Realizes The Obvious Red Flags She’s Been Ignoring
The wedding day is supposed to be one of the happiest days of a person’s life. But in some unfortunate cases, it becomes one they would rather not remember.
User ‘Mindless-Charge-5996’ recently told the Reddit community about her wedding day becoming a disaster. What started with the happy couple excited about spending their lives together ended in the bride leaving her own wedding. Scroll down for the full story.
People typically hope for a wedding day to remember, but for some it becomes unforgettable for the wrong reasons
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This woman had to leave her own wedding after the groom pranked her
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The OP provided an update on what happened next
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Shoving cake into your significant other’s face might start the marriage off on the wrong foot
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People get married for all sorts of reasons, from seeking to share a surname to wanting to have one hell of a ball. (Surveys suggest that the latter is one of the main motivating factors for over one-fifth of couples out there.) But no matter the reason, it’s safe to assume that they hope for it to be a happy day to remember; the same way they typically hope for the marriage to last.
Unfortunately for the OP, neither was the case in her situation. On her wedding day, things took a turn for the worse when the groom decided to ignore her views and previous experiences and shoved cake into her face—a thing some newlyweds do that he knew she hated. That ensured the marriage didn’t last long, and encouraged the bride to leave her own wedding immediately.
Psychologist and founder of the Private Therapy Clinic Dr. Becky Spelman pointed out that when it comes to the wedding cake smash, it’s crucial to make sure both of the newlyweds are on the same page about it. “You don’t want to start your marriage off on the wrong foot, so it’s important to chat through the idea and only go ahead with it if your partner offers their enthusiastic consent,” she told Metro.co.uk.
Dr. Spelman also suggested that a cake smash happening without mutual agreement or when one of the parties feels uncomfortable about it could potentially indicate issues related to control, disrespect, or disregard for boundaries.
Such a tradition can be not only humiliating but costly, too
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The founder of Sincerely Nicole Media, Valese Jones, who has previously denounced the cake trend on her X (formerly Twitter) account, seconded the idea that such a tradition steps over certain boundaries. She told GLAMOUR that, “Men who get joy out of humiliating their wives under the guise of it being a joke tend to lack respect for women as humans. They don’t care about boundaries and I’ve often seen them diminish anything their wife-to-be cares about.”
Valese also emphasized that brides often spend months if not more planning their looks, which are then ruined in one swift—sometimes far from gentle as well—motion. And it’s not only humiliating, but expensive as well, as everything from hair and makeup to the wedding cake itself can be pretty costly; not to mention the dress, which was also ruined in the OP’s case.
The Knot’s 2022 survey of nearly 12,000 happy couples revealed that roughly four-in-five of them hired a professional to bake the cake for their big day. The Knot also unveiled that the average price for such a custom-made treat last year reached just over 500 dollars; a similar price to what the OP had to pay for her and her now former—thanks to the stunt—partner.
But it’s arguably safe to assume that in the redditor’s situation, as in most similar ones, it wasn’t about the money. The worst part was likely the fact that the groom knew how his partner felt about the tradition and chose to continue with it nevertheless. That was one of the many reasons fellow redditors expressed concern and showed support for the OP in the comments.
Redditors shared their thoughts and reactions in the comments
The bride shared one final update with fellow netizens
My wife hates these types of pranks and never in my life I would have thought of doing something like this to her. This is about mutual respect, not "you are not getting the joke". The OP did the right thing leaving that a*****e.
The only "satisfying" cake smash video I've ever seen was one where the MOH immediately swooped in when the shitbag groom lifted the cake to the brides face and sucker punched him so hard he fell over. Justice for the bride!
I’d love to see that one
This is something I would approve of as well! Best MOH!
Do you have videodescription or link ❤️🙏 i want to see, and googeling of this information didnt work for me.
I've seen the vid in a reddit compilation video from a YouTuber called The Click, so I assume it came from Reddit. I unfortunately don't remember which subreddit he was reviewing, and it was also some time ago. Good luck nonetheless!
Thank you! 🌹
She got the wake-up call, no one else did. I'm equally shocked that the family never apologized for injuring her during a previous cake smashing. The no-contact is crucial for not only her mental health but her physical safety. They sound vindictive and unlikely to feel remorse if she loses an eye or chokes from the assault.
The solution is easy, tell hubby you are coming home and now the wife can prank too. It is always funny in cartoons when someone gets their foot smashed with a hammer. When he get back from the hospital (after your first "prank"), hit the foot that isn't in a cast. It will be a literal scream. When you drive him to the hospital, drop him off in a bad part of town and shout: "You will find somebody to break that 100 dollar bill". I could go on, but I have had a life long rule, prank me and you will suffer. I "paid" back a prankster at my job, I microwaved his brown bag lunch every day for 18 months until he got fired. He never knew why his sandwiches were so chewy or his candybar chocolate filling was exploded. I nuked it for 1 minute and then back into the fridge. John Donahue, if you are still out there, it was me!
Assault is not a prank and should be punished by law. Also self justice is incredibly illegal as it should. Sorry but you sound worse than the panksters.
As a man who had an abusive spouse, I wish I had the courage to do what you did. I stayed with my ex for seven years after being humiliated on our wedding day and the honeymoon. I told myself regularly that she would change. She didn't. The good news is she helped me hit an emotional bottom I needed to hit in order to be in enough pain to change. Happily in a relationship with fun and freedom today!!
I'm happy that you're happy, brother 👊🏻
Thank you for sharing. I'm so glad you're happy!
Sometimes that's what u need to get stronger. I left my ex-husband and got into another similar type relationship, which I left also. I don't regret either, because they both helped me realize how strong I and what I really want out of a relationship, and that now I know I am ok alone if I can't have exactly what I want. And I'm ok with being alone, if that's what that means.
I'm with you, the exact thing happened to me. Happy now, with my cats.
Oh my word! this poor woman, the ABUSE! not just from the Sh!t-stain of the loser ex but also her FAMILY! I just want to give her a hug.
My wife hates these types of pranks and never in my life I would have thought of doing something like this to her. This is about mutual respect, not "you are not getting the joke". The OP did the right thing leaving that a*****e.
The only "satisfying" cake smash video I've ever seen was one where the MOH immediately swooped in when the shitbag groom lifted the cake to the brides face and sucker punched him so hard he fell over. Justice for the bride!
I’d love to see that one
This is something I would approve of as well! Best MOH!
Do you have videodescription or link ❤️🙏 i want to see, and googeling of this information didnt work for me.
I've seen the vid in a reddit compilation video from a YouTuber called The Click, so I assume it came from Reddit. I unfortunately don't remember which subreddit he was reviewing, and it was also some time ago. Good luck nonetheless!
Thank you! 🌹
She got the wake-up call, no one else did. I'm equally shocked that the family never apologized for injuring her during a previous cake smashing. The no-contact is crucial for not only her mental health but her physical safety. They sound vindictive and unlikely to feel remorse if she loses an eye or chokes from the assault.
The solution is easy, tell hubby you are coming home and now the wife can prank too. It is always funny in cartoons when someone gets their foot smashed with a hammer. When he get back from the hospital (after your first "prank"), hit the foot that isn't in a cast. It will be a literal scream. When you drive him to the hospital, drop him off in a bad part of town and shout: "You will find somebody to break that 100 dollar bill". I could go on, but I have had a life long rule, prank me and you will suffer. I "paid" back a prankster at my job, I microwaved his brown bag lunch every day for 18 months until he got fired. He never knew why his sandwiches were so chewy or his candybar chocolate filling was exploded. I nuked it for 1 minute and then back into the fridge. John Donahue, if you are still out there, it was me!
Assault is not a prank and should be punished by law. Also self justice is incredibly illegal as it should. Sorry but you sound worse than the panksters.
As a man who had an abusive spouse, I wish I had the courage to do what you did. I stayed with my ex for seven years after being humiliated on our wedding day and the honeymoon. I told myself regularly that she would change. She didn't. The good news is she helped me hit an emotional bottom I needed to hit in order to be in enough pain to change. Happily in a relationship with fun and freedom today!!
I'm happy that you're happy, brother 👊🏻
Thank you for sharing. I'm so glad you're happy!
Sometimes that's what u need to get stronger. I left my ex-husband and got into another similar type relationship, which I left also. I don't regret either, because they both helped me realize how strong I and what I really want out of a relationship, and that now I know I am ok alone if I can't have exactly what I want. And I'm ok with being alone, if that's what that means.
I'm with you, the exact thing happened to me. Happy now, with my cats.
Oh my word! this poor woman, the ABUSE! not just from the Sh!t-stain of the loser ex but also her FAMILY! I just want to give her a hug.